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Welcome to

Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

DAY ONE

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Journaling Prompts

  1. What’s your intention for this training?
  2. What are you most wanting to change?
  3. What type of boundary do you feel you tend to have with:

    • Friends

    • Immediate Family

    • Extended Family

    • At work (bosses, coworkers)

    • Church

  4. What kind of boundaries did you parents/main caregivers model healthy boundaries for you?

DAY TWO

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Journaling Prompts

  1. How did you see your parents modeling boundaries?

  2. Did they have a dynamic where it was safe to be vulnerable?

  3. Was your childhood home physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy (safe, protected, loving, etc.)?

  4. Did you feel like your need to explore was met?

  5. What are your deepest desires?

  6. What comes up when you think about exploration?

  7. How does it feel to think about having limits?

  8. Bring to mind whatever it was that you thought of during the training today: where did I learn this? 

  9. What's the first memory I have with this? 

  10. What does this mean for me/what are 'truths' (unhelpful beliefs) I have around this? 

  11. If I could believe whatever I wanted, however ridiculous or unlikely, what would I want to believe instead?

DAY THREE

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Journaling Prompts

  1. How do your personal boundaries look right now?

  2. Where do you notice you don’t like having limits (social media, food, alcohol, spending, etc.)?

  3. What kind of habits would you like to have in place of where you’re lacking limits?

  4. Where do you notice you might have too strict limits (social media, food, alcohol, spending, etc.)?

  5. What does the strict limit do for you (gives you peace of mind, makes you feel like you’re in control, etc.)?

  6. What would you be doing if you knew you would be successful (note: make sure your definition of success is in line with your values)?

  7. What kind of boundaries would they have in order to have that success?

DAY FOUR

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Journaling Prompts

  1. How do you tend to feel when someone gets pushy with you?

  2. How do you react when you voice an opinion and feel shut down?

  3. What areas in your life do you have healthy relational boundaries (friends, immediate family, extended family, church)?

  4. What areas in your life do you have relational boundaries you’d like to adjust (friends, immediate family, extended family, church)?

  5. What relationships feel like the most drama, work, challenging?

  6. What feels like a good next step to take with them (creating space, having a conversation, etc)?

DAY FIVE

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Journaling Prompts

  1. Why do you think a boundary is necessary (remember, 9 times out of 10 it’s not)?

  2. Have they done/said this before?

  3. Is there anything you feel you are currently “tolerating”?

  4. How is not having boundaries serving you (getting to be mad whenever you want, not having to take responsibility, avoiding conflict/uncomfortable conversations)?

  5. What is it costing you to not set boundaries?

  6. While you’re practicing building your boundary muscles, what structures could you put in place to practice setting boundaries (turning off your phone at home, having to leave work at 5 for a class/hobby)?